I never babysat the kids in my neighborhood once; I couldn’t relate to kids at all. I would crush on older guys when I was 13, but I really didn’t start actually dating an older guy until I was 26; he was 40.That relationship was fun and short-lived, but what I've learned since then has taken me a long way when dating older men.He loves spending time with you, but may want to call it an early night instead of going to the next big party.
Let's face it, we're all going to be older women at some point, and here are a few reasons why that's going to be a good (and sexy) thing…. There are exceptions to every rule—in fact, rules are mostly nonsense—but one of the best things about growing older is realizing how much more comfortable almost everything is when you have some idea what you’re doing. She’ll either have it, which is fun, or she'll be used to living without it and still having a good time, which is also fun. Older women are often further on in their careers, or alternatively, have given up and thrown it all in to do something interesting and cool and independent. As a bookworm myself, there's nothing more exciting than going home with someone and discovering they have more books than you.
And that applies to dating as much as anything else. If she’s a decade older than you, that’s an extra decade to have explored what she wants in a relationship, set up her life so she’s surrounded by awesome people and doing a job she finds fulfilling, and also traveled the world/worked in twenty different states/lived in a foreign country/gone to Burning Man/learned to paraglide/experienced the whole pre-internet bar culture thing. Again, this comes down to knowing who you are and what you want, which is often very sexy indeed. She’ll have had an extra decade to collect awesome people with cultural awareness and political nous and war stories and interesting hobbies and creativity. Sex She’ll know what she’s doing, know what her kinks are, and you can have this whole sexy authority/objectification thing going on, if you're into that. This is proportionately much more likely if the person in question is older! So many of the excellent older queer ladies I know have dealt with their shit and are just unashamed and self-confident in all the best ways.
Stay in for a couple nights by making dinner and watching a movie and doing one extreme outing during the week, even if it’s just for a bit.
and the epic romance between Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor. In my experience, women older than me are monumentally more likely to have their shit sorted and know who they are and where they’re going than younger ones. That’s ten years more time to accumulate quality books, films, music and art, plus ten years' worth of extra salary to buy things with.
When I would go away on trips and had my guy take care of my apartment, I always came home to flowers on the table, chocolate or homemade gifts. Besides feeling good together in public, you look great together, too.
Even though there have been those people who have judged, you’ll be surprised that there are more people on your side than you think.
I started my media career at age 9 at a community TV station and my ambition level went up from there.
I save and invest my money; I’ve never been married and I have no kids. My father was a businessman who ran a successful chiropractor practice.
One of the great things about relationships is often the new friendship circles you meet and bond with, and older women often have their social stuff down. For some reason, older queer women often have cats. I'm certainly a lot more relaxed and assured than I ever was in my early twenties, and that makes me a better girlfriend, more able to empathise and engage and much less inclined to give a shit what 'society' or anyone who isn't my partner or my friend thinks.
In my experience, older women spend less time agonizing and more time having fun, and are thus pretty awesome to date.