Unfortunately their urge-to-merge strategy inevitably hits a dead end: they end up using people, having a miserable time, developing a bad reputation, and scaring off the person they hoped to attract in the first place.
Take it from Confucius, the philosopher: "Desperation produces perspiration, and perspiration stinks on anybody." 2.
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Anticipating plans for a fun night out, you eagerly answer in your sweetest voice, "Hello? Maybe we should think about just being friends." "Whatever ... Have a nice time with your friends." You hang up on him, hoping you left him thinking that you couldn't care less what he does with his life or who he spends it with. You spend most of the weekend on the couch, watching reruns of That '70s Show on TV.
" "Um, hey." He doesn't sound nearly as excited to be talking to you. But inside, your heart sinks into your stomach as you realize that this person, in whom you've invested so much time, energy, and emotion, has just put an end to something you hoped would last forever-well, at least longer than two months. By Sunday night, for some strange reason, you don't feel any better.He is starving for someone to fill the emotional hole in his soul.These desperate people go to places, including youth group functions, only to check out the girls or become friends with so-and-so because her brother is good-looking.Why did something that seemed so good not work out? You had told him you have a busy life too, but suddenly you realize that just isn't true. You now see how you had put your life on hold-your school, family, interests, friends, and even your relationship with God.And now that it's over, you have nothing to sustain you-no one to call, nothing to do. Okay, so maybe this illustration is a bit depressing, but believe us, we have witnessed far too many scenarios just like it.People with lives are not sitting around waiting to be swept off their feet.People with lives do not make "getting a boyfriend or girlfriend" their ultimate goal.Dependence A dependent person gains a sense of significance and security through others.She must be attached to someone in order to feel good about herself.Thousands of people make bad relationship choices and end up with a lot of unnecessary pain because they ignore this first and foundational relationship commandment: Thou Shalt Get a Life!Years ago the girl of my (Ben's) dreams dumped me twice within a six-week period.