I’d say 95 per cent of guys who send me messages are not Canadian.
Many of its members deny they use it out of embarrassment.
And yet that hasn’t diminished the site’s popularity; 24,000 of the GTA’s 684,000 South Asians now use Shaadi’s services, including parents who set up profiles for their eligible children—a computer-age variation on the arranged marriage. They argued that if I didn’t start looking, there wouldn’t be anyone left to marry when I’m older.
To certain people in our culture, complexion matters a lot: the whiter you are, the more “attractive” you are.
I’m regular brown and proud of it, so I chose the “wheatish” category.
The site also requires that you describe your religion.
I’m culturally Muslim, but I’m not practising and I don’t think it’s an important variable for dating.
The women who broke free of the caste system did it in their 20s, in university, and I missed the boat with them.
The women who abide by the caste system and remain single are often controlled by parents who would feel shame if their daughter married someone of a lower or even a different group.
My parents are new to computers, so the fact that they got it done by themselves is impressive.
They set up my profile with their email account, looked through the available women, received requests from some girls and forwarded the ones they liked.