She has no life, no friends, and just sits in her room or constantly goes to a number of physicians for a number of various health issues, though I wonder ofter how much is real, and how much is just a way of getting attention. What you’re dealing with here is technically called a ‘boundary issue’.And they, of course just feed her healthcare addiction with multiple diagnoses of different problems. A boundary is a line around something that separates it from other things.My roomate tells her its not hers, and my mother calls her a liar.
My suggestion to you is to get yourself into a psychotherapy situation.For a lot of people, it’s a seemingly never-ending dance of missed connections, nights you’ll never get back again and wondering just what’s wrong with you and why everybody else seems to have it so much easier. In fact, for many people, online dating is such a trial that they give up early on.Even for people like me who the whole dance and the chase and the thrill of the new, there will be points when you really just want to take a step back from it for a while and catch your breath and let your ego recover from the beatings that tend to come with it. But just as when you’re trying to meet your future snugglebunny the old-fashioned way, it’s important to understand the potential headaches that come with those marathon OKCupid sessions.I just don’t want to bring an innocent into this mess.About 2 years ago I was seriously in love with a girl, and she ended up leaving because she ‘didn’t like who I would become around my mother’.She also couldn’t handle my mothers constant interuptions.My older brother has been totally destroyed, he is now a crack addict and criminal.You may experience guilt feelings if you do these things, but that is okay.Talk about the guilt feelings in your therapy, and do them anyway.Everything from how they stand to how they talk, who they talk to, how they act around their friends, how they smell, even the pitch and timbre of their voice indicate whether or not we’re likely to have an initial attraction to them that would prompt us to make that all-important first approach.We’re able to process all of these signals so rapidly that we’re often unaware of it; to our conscious mind, we’re just eliding over the ones who we read as “nope, not interested” while we narrow our focus on the people who do it for us.