The basic function of a man in rural society is to have a family and look after that family.” “In rural areas, men who didn’t get married are really marginalized; even socializing in the village is difficult,” said Therese Hesketh, a professor of global health at University College London.
“These guys are depressed.” and lonely’ Li Weibin has never had a girlfriend.
Taking a stand over harassment The growing number of eligible men who cannot find brides has had a profound impact on the age-old rhythms of family life.
Adult sons live with their mothers — in some cases, their grandmothers.
In the two countries, 50 million excess males are under age 20. Both nations are belatedly trying to come to grips with the policies that created this male-heavy generation.
And demographers say it will take decades for the ramifications of the bulge to fade away.Out of China’s population of 1.4 billion, there are nearly 34 million more males than females — the equivalent of almost the entire population of California, or Poland, who will never find wives and only rarely have sex.China’s official one-child policy, in effect from 1979 to 2015, was a huge factor in creating this imbalance, as millions of couples were determined that their child should be a son.Bachelors like Li are dismissively branded as “bare branches” for failing to expand the family tree.But as any forester knows, bare branches pose a danger, and not just to themselves.They don’t want to talk to me.” Li’s problem is not only that he is poor and struggling to save enough money to buy an apartment of his own; it is that in China there are simply too many men.This is a country where marriage confers social status, and where parental pressure to produce grandchildren is intense.Indian and Chinese women who showed a marked preference for sons are growing old.They are still burdened with cooking and cleaning for their adult sons, and the stress affects their health.In the four sections below are personal tales that show how the imbalance has affected: Village life and mental health.Among men, loneliness and depression are widespread. Men are learning to cook and perform other chores long relegated to women. Bachelors are furiously building houses in China to attract wives, and prices are soaring.