Indonesia is a great place to look for a virgin to marry, especially if you are looking for one who is not super young, like a teenager.
I also got the sense that Indonesians generally had a relatively positive attitude toward sex in marriage.
"Feminism is still a dirty word here, and now with the conservative turn, it's again become a very dangerous thing to declare yourself a feminist."Kartika Jahja, an activist and musician in Jakarta, is pushing back against what she sees as a growing tide against women's rights and sexuality in her country.
The chill on talking about sexuality and feminism is both social — "In Indonesia we like to think that people don't have sex before marriage when we actually do" — and a question of political power and oppression.
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My wife is Indonesian, and I've noticed that there are a lot of advantages to marrying an Indonesian woman, as opposed to a western woman, especially if you want a traditional kind of wife.Much of her work is related to issues of gender and sexuality.In 2016, the band released a video Tubuhku Otoritasku (My Body My Authority) that sparked controversy for tackling issues like slut-shamming, body positivity and women's issues.Low Divorce Rates I've read Indonesian divorce rates have risen, but they are still lower than in the US and a lot of western countries.Certain Indonesian people-groups probably have higher divorce rates and some have lower.To encourage thoughtful and respectful conversations, first and last names will appear with each submission to CBC/Radio-Canada's online communities (except in children and youth-oriented communities). By submitting a comment, you accept that CBC has the right to reproduce and publish that comment in whole or in part, in any manner CBC chooses.Please note that CBC does not endorse the opinions expressed in comments.Sexual Attitudes There are loose women and prostitutes in probably every country.But it seems to be the norm for a woman (or a man) to be a virgin before marriage.One couple around here broke up after 5 years of no breakups with maybe 50 or so married couples.They Value Caring for the Home Unless things have changed, if you tell an Indonesian woman you are looking for a wife who can cook, that you will expect your wife to cook for you, to wash, and clean, she probably won't get bent out of shape.