“He actually seemed like an OK guy from his profile, but his email skeeved me out.” Hopefully, you know better, but even PG-praise can often come across as forced or simply too eager.
So definitely give a compliment or two — like on a great smile — but don’t overdo it or it may read like fan mail.
“In her email, one girl asked if I’d seen the game the night before and actually mentioned some of the highlights.
Right there, I knew we’d have something to talk about on a first date.” Even if you don’t share a love of Moroccan cuisine or kung fu movies, expressing a desire and curiosity to learn more will get that prospect’s attention as well.
That’s why it’s important to establish that shared connection right away.
“In my profile, I mentioned how much I love the Yankees,” recounts Scott, 32, of New York City.
No, there will be no more stories of woe, no more pleas for sympathy for the complicated predicament of being an attractive lady online. That might sound like a lot of time, but it generally only takes 10-30 seconds to read a message.
I read your emails, and I get it: you don’t give a shit. When someone starts off saying they’re emailing me again, it’s like I feel bad for ignoring them and thus I pay more attention to them.
You can even succeed with something as simple as: “I know your profile says that you’re always working, but I’d love to hear back from you when you have the time.” One of the best things about this modern form of courtship is that you cross paths with a ton of people you would have never met otherwise.
As great as it is to venture outside of your comfort zone though, at the end of the day, most of us are just looking for someone we can relate to.