Your personality style causes you to say directly how you feel, whether positive or negative, and you stand your ground when things get stressful.The concern with dating someone who has a child is that you are essentially walking smack-dab in the middle of a situation that is pretty stressful.If you are an argument-prone personality, understand that walking into a complex set of relationships may cause more arguments than you’ve ever had before.
If you are on the fence about wanting kids, forcing yourself into a pre-established family adds so many pressures, and it’s not necessarily worth the hassle unless you live somewhere where there are truly few to no other dating options.
Do you have a significant part of your personality that is nurturing?
The most promising and successful scenario in dating someone with a child involves you knowing – with no doubts or hesitations – that you want kids.
As long as you start with this crucial building block – wholeheartedly wanting to be a parent – you can get to know and date that new person, and the relationship may actually work out or even morph into the kind of union you’ve always wanted.
For some of you, the risk is worth it; for others, it’s not.
Prior to meeting this new person, did you know that you wanted kids?
News flash: A significant portion of the population are not nurturers by nature and won’t make good, nurturing parents.
I’m thinking of workaholics, angry/bitter-prone personalities, and impulsive, always-looking-for-the-party personalities.
If you are smart and research the issue well, you will make a good decision. Seth is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert.
On the other hand, making an impulsive decision and getting in too deep too quickly could lead to intense problems later. He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.