But it shouldn’t be that big of a deal in your relationship to the point that it’s often brought up or on your mind.Know soon into a relationship with an older man where you all stand on different things that could be a big deal in the future, including kids, marriage, and your feelings on cohabitation and more, and you should be able to make the relationship work as if you were dating someone the same age as you.
Instead of cussing them good, just say, “No comment.” Don’t come in thinking you’ve found a sugar daddy, or that because he’s older he will have his life together and be wise. He might be in a world of debt and have a sideways way of thinking as opposed to an IRA account and a wealth of wisdom from past experiences.
Every man is different, and sometimes change of self doesn’t come with a change in age.
And if he likes a certain type of music or movie that is a bit “old” for you, don’t be too dramatic when he talks about his love for it (i.e. Don’t get too bent out of shape if a question is asked of you that you didn’t see coming (“When are you guys getting married?? Just be honest about the fact that you’re taking things slow (if that’s what you’re doing) and keep it cool (Or, “You gotta ask him” always works).
Also be ready for nosy friends (especially women friends) who might think they’re entitled to question you about your cooking abilities, and what you’d be willing to do for their friend if you’re around for the long-term.
I know a woman who dates an older man, and he jumps from profession to profession while trying to make a career in music take off.
But the guy I’m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level.
Dating an older man can teach you a lot, especially about yourself (and what you do and don’t want in a partner), but it’s not always the easiest of relationships. Just in case you’re thinking of getting serious with a fella quite a few years older or even decades older than you, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you get it crackin’.
Depending on how old the man you’re seeing is, he might have certain goals he’s trying to finish accomplishing.
I have nothing against guys my age; I have tried dating them, but I have constantly come across the following:- They’re not ambitious enough, or they don't have a go-getter attitude.- They’re not financially stable.- They still want to date around.- They have had baby mama or ex-wife drama.- They don’t have their sh*t together.
I’m not saying every guy in my age group is like this, but overall, my personal experience hasn’t been fulfilling for me.