And while this may be true in some instances, sometimes a woman financial burdens instead of functioning cohesively as a unit in the relationship.
And honestly, sometimes she doesn’t want to revisit the “land of hard times.” It’s usually no different than any other preference someone has regarding a potential mate. The problem isn’t his paycheck, it’s his confidence.
I’ve recently been following two stories on Madame Noire regarding black men and their dating choices. ’ ‘She’s only with you because of this.’ It’s sad because honestly if anybody knows me, all the girls I’ve dated, I’ve dated girls who’ve been as black as Akon and white as Casper. She could be blue, green or yellow and it would have been her.” [SOURCE]So here’s two very public examples of black men getting flack for dating light skinned women and non-black women. Black women also get the pushback when we date interracially, so isn’t it even? There are four key differences between black men getting criticism of their dating choices rather than the other way around. Patriarchy allows for men to date and marry anyone they want.
The first was a piece about a self-proclaimed “dark skin activist” calling out Kendrick Lamar for having an extremely fair skinned fiancé. Despite all the complaining, guilting, lip smacking and neck rolling, a black man will ultimately and unapologetically do whatever the hell he wants. Check out the last 40 years of black men dating and marrying non-black women. Yeah, that’s happening, despite any objections their mammas, sisters, and jilted black girlfriends and ex-wives have to say about.
Women aren’t obligated to date a man who is struggling.
If we prefer someone who is more financially stable, that does not mean that we are heartless, gold-digging and superficial.
We are the “bed wenches.” There is no equivalent insult for black men who marry white women, who did their share of abusing black male slaves, including having them lynched on the regular if a white woman claimed they so much as whistled at her.
Let black men tell it, it was never the white woman’s fault.
I’m not going to sit here and pretend like we all don’t want that ride or die mate.
But perhaps, if you are running into women who aren’t interested in dating you due to your financial status, maybe you should work on becoming a bit more stable in that department.