“I will never date a soldier” is the phrase I used to tell myself religiously.
Growing up with my dad in the Army, I have always felt that I got enough of the military lifestyle – and then I ended up dating someone in the military anyway.
The doubts were frustrating: does it make sense to even attempt dating someone states away?
Whether it made sense or not, it’s not something I regret at all.
Basically, if it’s not a deployment, military personnel always have a choice: they can include you or they won’t.” Any relationship comes with it’s own challenges, but two civilians dating won’t go through things such as deployment and constantly moving to new duty stations.
Divorced from her husband who was also in the military, Jessica Player, 38, knows first-hand the strains the military can put on a relationship.
It’s for reasons like this I’d never considered dating someone in the military, but then I did.
It was one of those typical relationships I knew I shouldn’t have began in the first place solely because of the distance, but when we continued talking after he went back to his duty station it just grew into something.
He even flew me out to where he was during the spring semester and that was the greatest amount of effort I had ever seen from a guy to spend time with me.
Truthfully, dating someone in the military is no different from dating a civilian.