Uh huh, you ended up with a world class schmuck AND the world is full of really great people. Learn where to go to meet people who enjoy the same things you do. Give yourself time to get to know someone before jumping in the sack. Edward Lauman's research found that 85 percent of couples had known each other at least 30 days before having sex and 45 percent waited at least a year. Check out their "fit." How are they around your family and friends?
Know what your values are and be clear about what you're looking for in a relationship. I can't explain how refreshing it is when it feels like it's 50-50." Greg G."Regardless of what you've heard, realize that guys can indeed be 'just friends' with other girls. Some think there's no such thing as a platonic relationship with another girleither one or the other of you wants to hook up.It's important for them to know that those relationships can and do exist with the opposite sex. Guys (like me) aren't that great at guessing what women think or want, and our stupidity often leads to otherwise easily avoidable arguments. The beginning of a new relationship can be a tricky course to navigate.Sometimes we just have other things going on at the time, or we don't want to seem too overeager.Sometimes I'll text before I jump on a subway home and am stuck underground for an hour." —Alex S."It's really attractive when a girl takes initiative in bed; a guy won't think any less of you.If you're great at something and can speak about it with confidence, it makes other people want to be around you and can be a big turn on." Dom S."It's a turnoff for me when a girl pretends to like something just because I like it. A woman who suggests awesome date activities is one a guy can really appreciate, and it's nice to have something else to talk about other than yourselves and the food." Jason M."When it comes to sex, mix it up.Whatever your guy does to you, he had to learn it somewhere.Don't drive yourself crazy over them." KC I."Sometimes we just need time to hang out with the boys.Just because you aren't invited out to the bar doesn't mean you have anything to be upset or jealous about. If we disagree about stuff, let's have fun disagreeing about it and if any of it winds up being too important, then, well, it won't work out and that's fine." Miles P."It's great when a girl shows affection when it's the two of you, or shows she cares in a different way, like doing something nice, completely unsolicited.