So if you’re asking ‘should I stay friends with my ex’?—consider these tips and words of wisdom before answering: You see it in the paper every day.
They observe the body language of these two people as they greet each other and talk; and they can predict with high accuracy whether they had a relationship together.
Jerry Seinfeld wisely observed that breaking up with someone was like trying to tip over a soda machine. The logic usually goes, ‘I do like her as a person. The ever present danger for these types of friendships is a backslide.
Once it is moving and unstable, only then you can push it over. It is difficult to tell another person, ‘I don’t want a romantic relationship with you.’ Hearing it from someone else is clearly worse. From an intellectual level remaining friends may seem like a good idea. If both individuals are emotionally mature, and completely lacking in romantic feelings for each other, then a jump straight to the friend zone might be possible. Mutual breakups are usually not mutual, and the breakee is holding on to some strong romantic desires.
Also, there are certain scenarios where it is possible to have a friendship post-love affair: Say you pretty much grew up together—and then sort-of outgrew each other.
You both agreed it was time to part ways, so the breakup was mutual.