This may be the biggest excuse men use for being lazy in relationships, much less finding one.
German theologian Dietrich Bonhoeffer addresses this issue in a wedding sermon he wrote for his sister from a Nazi jail cell.
Regardless of your theology on the Predestination of Girlfriends, you're probably eager to be an active participant in your dating life. Myth #2: "The Bible has clearly defined guidelines for dating." People didn't date in biblical times.
Dating as a socially accepted means of finding a mate has been around for less than a century.
She read about how she was a princess in God's sight and how he wanted the very best for her.
She committed herself to sexual purity, to high standards, and to waiting for the good Christian man that God was going to bring her.Though God won't do all the work for you, he'll be with you every step of the way.The good news is that most men don't have a problem with this.Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.Her Sunday school teachers taught from a very popular book about how dating was unbiblical, and how a truly righteous young Christian man would initiate a courtship with marriage as the goal, working in tandem with the girl's father and the pastor and others in the church body.The heroine of our story observed that as these things were being taught, the level of romantic involvement among her peers at church, not very high to begin with, shrank to practically nonexistent.Just as she was getting old enough to start dating, however, she noticed something.Some of the popular Christian books were talking about not dating at all, and just being friends, until God had made it clear that the guy she liked was the right one for her.God will tell them if a relationship is right, and God will end it if it's not.All they have to do is sit back and enjoy the ride.