I’m not often invited to coupled dinner parties in the socially conservative part of Mexico where I live.Hard to believe in 2018, but I’m viewed as a threat – imagine, me, a threat? I’d like to think that in a cosmopolitan city this would not be the case.
I have acquaintances where I live, but when you are an expat, as I am, you often befriend people you wouldn’t necessarily want to know simply because they’re from back home.
I thrive on meaningful conversation, not cocktail party chatter.
I use girl instead of woman, because being lonely brings out the girl in me.
Loneliness is more than just about feeling lonely – it breeds depression. Another unfortunate issue about loneliness is we blame the victim. And so, we pepper the lonely with advice: you should go for a walk, go to the library, join an adult education class, go to a meetup group, do volunteer work.
I grew up in a loving family and had a small town, active childhood filled with connection. But living alone has begun to make me feel very vulnerable in the many ways that have been written about: being sick, traveling, cooking alone, having no one to pick you up from the hospital, navigating holidays. I’m also a writer and writing doesn’t happen at events, activities and parties.
As an adult, I adored the full, energetic family years of raising my children and being active in my community. Writing happens sitting alone in a room for hours, every day.So, the essence of my life is solitary and requires hours of solitude.I’m not a social butterfly like some people I know who go to most every event they can, but I do have meaningful and deep relationships with wonderful friends, mostly women. Because of work and love, my tribe lives around the world – in Vancouver, Vietnam, Berlin, Kolkata, London and France.Stanger’s Simon & Schuster books, “Become Your Own Matchmaker,” “Find Your Match,” “Seal the Deal” and “Raise your Desirability Factor” and DVD “Married in a Year,” and audio coaching programs “The Single Girls Handbook” and “Attracting a Soul Mate,” have a loyal, devoted following, and continue to brand Patti as the ultimate “matchmaking expert.” She was a featured columnist on . Patti has a successful jewelry collection called Je’Taime, and you can hear Patti on her new podcast, “Patti Stanger’s The Love & Sex Report” on i Tunes.From the initial meeting through the marriage proposal, the Millionaire Dating Club works with clients on an individual basis and coaches the particular member through each stage of the dating process by providing them with highly tailored feedback every step of the way.British Prime Minister Teresa May appointed a Minister of Loneliness because of the magnitude of loneliness in the U. If you were to meet me, you’d never think I could be lonely. You’d think I’m a vibrant, fun loving woman, brimming with energy and panache. I’m not depressed enough to stop caring for myself, be a hermit, dress in drab clothes and stop caring kind of lonely. Women who suffer from loneliness die a little each day, unseen. First, it seems ‘silly’ when there are ‘real’ problems in the world, like hunger, disease, political unrest ravaging millions of lives.I’m fashionably dressed and coiffed, makeup artfully applied lonely. Second, admitting to loneliness is like I’m announcing that I’m the unpopular girl in school.I’m writing this piece because of all the recent press about how loneliness is now considered not only dangerous for your health but even a fatal condition.Loneliness, it seems, has become a matter of life and death.Admitting and accepting that I’m lonely makes it less scary somehow. So I’ll powder my nose, put on my lipstick and get out there. Camp Liza is her personal blog about stylish, soulful and creative living.As a result, whilst existential loneliness is not so easily banished, I have noticed a subtle shift in me. Her newest e-book, “How to live like a millionaire on a retirement budget” is available on Amazon.